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Name *

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Email *

Phone

Gender *

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Birth Order (E.g. 1st out of 5; or 2nd out of 5; or 5th out of 5; etc) *

Attachment Dynamics Evaluation

Choose the response that best describes you using the following scale: Strongly Disagree, Disagree, Neutral, Agree, Strongly Agree

1. I find it relatively easy to get emotionally close to others. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

2. I often worry about being abandoned or not loved by my partner. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

3. I find it difficult to fully trust others, even my partner. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

4. I feel conflicted about being close to others—I want connection but also fear it. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

5. I feel comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

6. I feel insecure if my partner doesn’t immediately respond to me. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

7. I prefer not to rely on others and feel uncomfortable when they depend on me. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

8. I sometimes push people away even though I deeply want their attention. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

9. I am comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings with my partner. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

10. I tend to crave a lot of reassurance and affection in my relationships. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

11. I often feel the need to keep emotional distance from others to feel safe. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

12. I experience sudden mood changes in relationships, going from feeling secure to scared or confused. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

13. I feel confident that my partner will support me when I need them. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

14. I sometimes feel that I am more invested in the relationship than my partner. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

15. I am uncomfortable with too much closeness and often push people away. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

16. I have difficulty trusting people and fear they will hurt or abandon me. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

17. I trust my relationships to be stable and secure, even when there’s temporary distance. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

18. I often feel anxious when my partner is not available, even for short periods. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

19. I value my independence and sometimes avoid sharing my feelings with my partner. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

20. I often feel overwhelmed by emotions and struggle to express them clearly in relationships. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

21. I am generally satisfied with the level of closeness in my relationships *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

22. I fear that my partner might not care about me as much as I care about them. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

23. I find it challenging to be emotionally vulnerable, even with people I care about. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

24. I tend to experience intense emotional reactions when I feel rejected or ignored. *

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree

Self-Emotional Mapping

Choose the response that best describes you using the following scale: Rarely, Sometimes, Often, Usually, Always.

1. I am able to recognize when my emotions change, even subtly. *

Rarely
Sometimes
Often
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Always

2. I notice when my mood shifts, even if it’s for a small reason. *

Rarely
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3. When I feel overwhelmed, I can usually tell which specific emotion is causing it. *

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4. I take a moment to identify my emotions before reacting. *

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5. I am aware of my physical reactions (like heart rate or tension) as signals of my emotions. *

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6. I understand how past experiences shape my emotional reactions. *

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7. I am aware of specific situations or interactions that trigger strong emotions in me. *

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8. I notice when I start feeling emotional tension before it escalates *

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9. I recognize when a particular person or event triggers recurring emotional patterns. *

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10. I can pinpoint situations that make me feel emotionally vulnerable or sensitive. *

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11. I can calm myself down when I feel intense emotions. *

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12. I avoid impulsive reactions when I’m experiencing strong emotions. *

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13. I can manage my emotions in challenging situations without getting overwhelmed. *

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14. I know when to take a break or step back to manage my emotions effectively. *

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15. I can shift from negative emotions to more positive states with conscious effort. *

Rarely
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16. I recognize how my emotional state affects the way I behave with others. *

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17. I understand how my emotions can affect my partner’s or friend’s mood. *

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18. I am aware of how my emotional reactions might impact those around me. *

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19. I can change my behavior if I realize my emotions are affecting others negatively. *

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20. I consider how my emotions influence my decision-making. *

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21. I reflect on my emotions to understand myself better. *

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22. I recognize patterns in my emotional responses over time. *

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23. I take responsibility for managing my emotions in relationships. *

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24. I actively work on understanding the reasons behind my emotional triggers. *

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25. I am committed to improving my emotional awareness and regulation skills. *

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Strength & Growth Tracker

Choose the response that best describes you using the following scale: Rarely, Sometimes, Often, Usually, Always.

1. I feel confident in the qualities I bring to my relationship. *

Rarely
Sometimes
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Always

2. I am comfortable supporting my partner without expecting anything in return. *

Rarely
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3. I am a good listener, making others feel heard and understood. *

Rarely
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4. I manage to keep a positive attitude even during challenging times. *

Rarely
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5. I value honesty and transparency in my relationship. *

Rarely
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6. I actively seek feedback to understand how I can improve. *

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7. I regularly reflect on my behaviors and how they impact my relationship. *

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8. I am open to learning about myself, even if it reveals areas I need to work on. *

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9. I recognize when I need to adjust my behaviors or attitudes. *

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10. I am aware of both my strengths and weaknesses in my relationship. *

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11. I communicate openly and clearly in my relationship. *

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12. I stay calm and patient when conflicts arise. *

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13. I am willing to compromise to reach a mutual understanding. *

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14. I make an effort to resolve conflicts constructively. *

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15. I am open to discussing difficult topics without becoming defensive. *

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16. I can handle my emotions well, even in difficult situations. *

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17. I recover quickly from setbacks and learn from challenges. *

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18. I stay focused and calm under pressure. *

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19. I avoid taking out my frustrations on my partner. *

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20. I work on improving my emotional stability for my personal growth. *

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21. I am willing to try new things that might improve my relationship. *

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22. I view challenges as opportunities to grow and learn. *

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23. I adapt my behaviors based on feedback from my partner. *

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24. I actively seek ways to improve myself and my relationship. *

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25. I am committed to ongoing personal development and growth. *

Rarely
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Love Language Assessment

Read the list of statements and rate yourself from 0 to 10, with 0 being the statement that least describes you and 10 being the statement that most describes you.

1. I feel most loved when my spouse compliments me or praises something I’ve done. *

2. I feel loved when my spouse gives me undivided attention. *

3. I feel loved when my spouse helps with tasks or responsibilities. *

4. I feel closer to my spouse when we hold hands or hug. *

5. I feel loved when my spouse surprises me with thoughtful gifts. *

6. Hearing “I love you” or similar affirmations from my spouse means a lot to me. *

7. Spending uninterrupted time together is important to me. *

8. Small acts of service, like making me coffee or helping with chores, mean a lot to me. *

9. Physical affection, like cuddling or kissing, makes me feel loved. *

10. I appreciate when my spouse remembers special occasions with a gift. *

11. A sincere compliment or encouragement from my spouse lifts my spirits. *

12. I enjoy having meaningful conversations with my spouse. *

13. I appreciate when my spouse takes the initiative to make my day easier. *

14. Small gestures of touch, like a hand on my shoulder, are meaningful to me. *

15. A small token or gift from my spouse, even without a reason, means a lot. *

16. I appreciate when my spouse acknowledges my efforts with kind words. *

17. Doing activities together strengthens my connection to my spouse. *

18. When my spouse goes out of their way to assist me, it makes me feel cherished. *

19. I enjoy when my spouse initiates physical intimacy. *

20. Thoughtful gifts make me feel valued by my spouse. *

21. I feel closer to my spouse when they express love through written or spoken words. *

22. I feel closer to my spouse when we regularly spend quality time together. *

23. I feel most loved when my spouse shows love through actions rather than words. *

24. Physical closeness, even small touches, makes me feel connected to my spouse. *

25. I feel cherished when my spouse gives me gifts that reflect my interests. *

Personality Type

Read the list of statements and rate yourself from 0 to 10, with 0 being the statement that least describes you and 10 being the statement that most describes you.

1. Many people think I am unemotional and blunt in relating with people and handling issues. *

2. My work rate is high, able to work under pressure, taking risks or projects others think cannot be done. *

3. I easily take the lead wherever I find myself and could get upset when goals are not met. *

4. I usually ignore how people feel when I am chasing a goal or trying to get results. *

5. I am very opinionated, and I can make decisions for others easily. *

6. I love people and always want to make them happy. *

7. I encourage people to work together and easily let go offences so we can move on *

8. People notice me easily and love me because I am the life of the party wherever I find myself *

9. I can motivate people to get things done. *

10. I dislike rules and regulations that promotes dogma & tradition because I know there are other ways to get the job done *

11. I naturally hate to offend people so I may be slow to confront issues because I am waiting for the right time to do it. *

12. People see me as a slow starter and they think I don’t like change but I am steady, dependable, controlled *

13. I love to work from the background without making noise about my accomplishment *

14. I withdraw from aggressive situations, would rather allow peace reign than be confrontational *

15. I am ambitious but I take my time and work at my pace *

16. I am a perfectionist to the core, I can’t stand disorganized people. *

17. I love to work based on rules and regulations and predetermined standards. *

18. I need time to think and plan before embarking on any project of journey. I rarely would jump on a trip or any venture without a proper plan and reflection *

19. I could be suspicious and critical of people, always weighing the intentions or motives behind whatever they do. *

20. I am very detailed and thorough in whatever I do, always trying to do things right leaving no room for error *

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2 comments

Korede Oluyemi 28 October, 2024 at 23:26 Reply

Honestly i found this whole Assessment so very much educative and i was able to discover so many things about me. I’m blessed
- juwonodutayo 29 October, 2024 at 08:56 Reply
  
  That is so good to know. Glad that you are on the Self-Discovery journey already.

Juwon Odutayo

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