Hello.

How are you?

I’m great.

You’re looking good.

Thanks. You look amazing too.

I just thought we need to have a conversation.

We always do, don’t you think?

Yeah, we do.

Hope you like the drink?

It’s great. Thanks.

**Silence.

I wan…

Did y…

Sorry, you go first.

Thank you.

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What are we doing?

I don’t understand.

Wait….What are we doing? I mean, where is this leading? After all the fun times and beautiful memories, what’s the goal?

The goal? How do you mean? We are having a great time.

I know. Don’t get me wrong, when I ask these questions, I only want to know if you will be okay if another takes me out on a dinner date or go catch a late-night movie with me. Would that be alright with you?

**Coughs

If it won’t, then what are we? Why are we here? Why are we spending significant time together? Why are we chatting late into the night? Why are we asking for exclusivity when we are not certain we are a pair? Why?

**Another silence

I wouldn’t like to assume. Assumption, they say, is the mother of frustration. I know you make sacrifices for me, I know you cancel other engagements to be with me, you sometimes even include me in your purchases, which I find quite remarkable. But I still don’t want to assume. So can you verbalize it? Can we have a simple conversation of what all this attention and affection is all about?

Are we committed to each other now? Is there a future in this? I just want to know. Because if there isn’t, I need to know if I can pick Tola’s phone call or reply to Brian’s text message. If there isn’t, I need to know and make a decision if it is worth the while to continue to waste my time and I should reconsider. I just want to know.

Great times are good. But they aren’t enough. Can we be honest with each other?

Your effort is telling me you care, but I would score commitment above effort to prove you really want this. There is really no point going from JSS1 to SS3 if you are not going to write School Cert exams. So, Jerry, what are we doing?

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See, after the elation of young love and the ecstasy of newly found passion we all want something we can build on, we want commitment. After we have wined and dined in many exotic restaurants after we have watched movies together, visited the art gallery together, hiked together, karaoke nights together, comedy shows together, game nights together, book reading together, fitness class together, after all these, we will need to sit together and have a conversation. We will need to block and shush all externals and talk, just the two of us. What’s this about?

For you should want more than the euphoria of the moment, you deserve a love that would last a lifetime. You should want more than chemistry, you deserve commitment. Beyond the thrills and the frills of starry-eyed adoration, you need some assurance, you need to know this is it.

Before you enter fully in, don’t be afraid to ask questions. Before you dive fully in its important you hold a conversation.