It takes a lot of courage for anyone to be vulnerable when they are starting out with another.

It takes a huge amount of confidence to take the risk and reveal any part of ourselves in what could be a love relationship.

Even when the other makes us comfortable in their presence and our nuances seem to come out naturally, we still seem guarded.
How much should I let go?
How much should I reveal?

And every meeting presents us with an opportunity to reveal a little more, open another layer and put ourselves out there.
But when that opportunity comes we become afraid and we dillydally; do we hold back or do we let go?
We are simply seeking for some UNSPOKEN SURENESS. Our soul yearns for some assurance.

We look for it in their expressions.
We search for it in their passive remarks.
We look for it in their casual gestures.
We search for it in their stare, their glance, and their calculated silence.

Love is the sureness that your vulnerability is safe in the hands of another.

The dude buried the one talent because he was afraid. He kept it for fear.
Same way many of us keep our feelings for fear.
We keep our emotions for fear. Fear that it would be trampled upon. Fear that it would not be reciprocated.
You don’t want to show too much, for fear.
You don’t want to give too much, for fear.
You don’t want to laugh so hard, for fear.
You don’t want to appear you like them, for fear.

So you bury your essence, you bury your you, for fear. Until you can find that unspoken sureness, that unquestionable and unerring confidence that you will be safe.
You are not asking them to verbalize it.
You are praying you would see it.
You are not demanding they tell you.
You are just wishing they will let it show.

Because to love is not just to risk but to risk it all. For a love that is halfhearted and guarded is not love at all.

This Easter, I pray you find your Unspoken Sureness. Not in the four walls of a building nor in the edifices and structures that are fleeting. But in the deep recesses of your soul, in the certainty He guarantees in all our uncertainties.