Marriage Readiness Assessment Δ
MARRIAGE READINESS ASSESSMENT
Instructions
There are no wrong or right answers to the statements in this assessment.
Ensure you are in a calm and unhurried state before taking this assessment.
The assessment requires you to HONESTLY give responses that reflect your authentic self.
Answer truthfully for the most accurate reflection of your personality and your desires.
Section 1 - ATTACHMENT DYNAMICS Read the list of statements and, using the scale below, pick the grade that you feel corresponds to how you feel.
Strongly Agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly Disagree
1. I find it relatively easy to get emotionally close to others.
2. I often worry about being abandoned or not loved by my partner.
3. I find it difficult to fully trust others, even my partner.
4. I feel conflicted about being close to others—I want connection but also fear it.
5. I feel comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me.
6. I feel insecure if my partner doesn’t immediately respond to me.
7. I prefer not to rely on others and feel uncomfortable when they depend on me.
8. I sometimes push people away even though I deeply want their attention.
9. I am comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings with my partner.
10. I tend to crave a lot of reassurance and affection in my relationships.
11. I often feel the need to keep emotional distance from others to feel safe.
12. I experience sudden mood changes in relationships, going from feeling secure to scared or confused.
13. I feel confident that my partner will support me when I need them.
14. I sometimes feel that I am more invested in the relationship than my partner.
15. I am uncomfortable with too much closeness and often push people away.
16. I have difficulty trusting people and fear they will hurt or abandon me.
17. I trust my relationships to be stable and secure, even when there’s temporary distance.
18. I often feel anxious when my partner is not available, even for short periods.
19. I value my independence and sometimes avoid sharing my feelings with my partner.
20. I often feel overwhelmed by emotions and struggle to express them clearly in relationships.
21. I am generally satisfied with the level of closeness in my relationships
22. I fear that my partner might not care about me as much as I care about them.
23. I find it challenging to be emotionally vulnerable, even with people I care about.
24. I tend to experience intense emotional reactions when I feel rejected or ignored.
Section 2 - LOVE LANGUAGE GRADING How would you describe yourself?
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Section 3 - PERSONALITY PROFILE Read the list of statements and rate yourself from 0 - 10, with zero being the statement that least describes you and ten being the statement that most describes you.
1. Many people think I am unemotional and blunt in relating with people and handling issues.
2. My work rate is high, able to work under pressure, taking risks or projects others think can’t be done.
3. I easily take the lead wherever I find myself and could get upset when goals are not met.
4. I usually ignore how people feel when I am chasing a goal or trying to get results.
5. I am very opinionated, and I can make decisions for others easily.
6. I love people and always want to make them happy.
7. I encourage people to work together and easily let go offences so we can move on
8. People notice me easily and love me because I am the life of the party wherever I find myself
9. I can motivate people to get things done.
10. I dislike rules and regulations that promotes dogma & tradition because I know there are other ways to get the job done
11. I naturally hate to offend people so I may be slow to confront issues because I am waiting for the right time to do it.
12. People see me as a slow starter and they think I don’t like change but I am steady, dependable, controlled
13. I love to work from the background without making noise about my accomplishment
14. I withdraw from aggressive situations, would rather allow peace reign than be confrontational
15. I am ambitious but I take my time and work at my pace
16. I am a perfectionist to the core, I can’t stand disorganized people.
17. I love to work based on rules and regulations and predetermined standards.
18. I need time to think and plan before embarking on any project of journey. I rarely would jump on a trip or any venture without a proper plan and reflection
19. I could be suspicious and critical of people, always weighing the intentions or motives behind whatever they do.
20. I am very detailed and thorough in whatever I do, always trying to do things right leaving no room for error
Section 4 - CONFLICT NAVIGATION TEST For each statement, choose the response that best describes how you feel or behave using the following scale:
1 - Rarely
2 - Sometimes
3 - Often
4 - Usually
5 - Always
1. I am willing to give up part of my position if the other person does the same.
2. I try to find a solution where both sides win something and lose something.
3. I look for the quickest way to settle the disagreement, even if it means a partial sacrifice.
4. I suggest splitting the difference to resolve the issue.
5. I seek to balance the concerns of both parties, even if neither is fully satisfied.
6. I am open to negotiating so both of us can meet halfway.
7. I avoid discussing problems and hope they resolve on their own.
8. I choose not to engage when a conflict arises, preferring to wait for it to pass.
9. I pretend the conflict isn’t important to avoid dealing with it.
10. I withdraw from arguments to keep the peace, even if the issue isn’t resolved.
11. I change the subject when the discussion becomes too heated.
12. I steer clear of people or topics that I know might lead to a conflict.
13. I insist on my viewpoint to make sure my position prevails.
14. I push hard to get what I want, even if others disagree.
15. I view disagreements as a competition and aim to come out on top.
16. I use my influence or authority to ensure that I win in conflict situations.
17. I focus on convincing others to accept my perspective.
18. I am more concerned about achieving my goals than maintaining harmony.
19. I put others' needs ahead of my own to avoid conflict.
20. I often give in to others, even when I have strong feelings about the issue.
21. I make sure others are satisfied, even if it means sacrificing my own preferences.
22. I try to maintain harmony by agreeing with the other person’s position.
23. I prioritize keeping the peace over asserting my own desires.
24. I downplay my own needs and focus on making others happy.
25. I encourage open discussion to explore solutions that benefit both sides.
26. I work with the other person to find a resolution that fully satisfies both of us.
27. I focus on understanding the other person’s point of view to come up with a mutually agreeable solution.
28. I take the time to discuss and resolve the issue, ensuring that both sides are happy.
29. I prioritize finding a creative solution that works for everyone involved.
30. I look for ways to incorporate both our ideas into the final decision.
Section 5 - BELIEFS ALIGNMENT Read each statement and indicate whether you Agree , Disagree , or are Unsure . Be honest, as this will help guide meaningful discussions about your future together.
1. A husband is superior to his wife.
2. It is the duty of a woman to cook for the family.
3. The man should have the final say in every matter that concerns the family.
4. A husband and wife are teammates.
5. Our cultural backgrounds should not define gender roles in our marriage.
6. Christian faith beliefs and principles should guide our decision-making in marriage.
7. Financial responsibilities in marriage should be divided equally.
8. Each spouse should have the freedom to manage their own money without consulting the other.
9. If one partner earns significantly more, they should have more decision-making power over finances.
10. It is acceptable to have separate bank accounts in addition to a joint account.
11. Whatever couples earn must be open to everyone in the family & no one owns anything privately.
12. I believe a real man must be the breadwinner and must provide for his family.
13. In marriage, one person should have the final say when there is a disagreement.
14. Household responsibilities should be shared based on ability, not gender roles.
15. Both partners should have an equal say in parenting decisions.
16. The final say on a matter (family plans, projects, etc) should be based on gender roles, not on expertise in those areas of concern.
17. It is important to balance individual independence with unity in marriage.
18. If a major decision negatively affects one spouse, it should be reconsidered.
19. Each partner should have personal time and space without feeling guilty.
20. It is okay to have close friendships with the opposite gender in marriage.
21. Social media and phone privacy should be respected in marriage.
22. Accountability should be mutual and not one-sided
23. Marriage does not mean giving up personal hobbies and interests.
24. Family members and friends should pre-inform before they visit.
25. Career choices should be made with the family’s best interest in mind.
26. If one partner gets a great job opportunity in another location, the other should be willing to relocate.
27. There will be disrespect and marital issues if a wife earns more than her husband.
28. If work demands more time, family should understand and adjust accordingly.
29. Marriage should not prevent either partner from furthering their education.
30. Both partners should actively support each other’s career growth and dreams.
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